Today, one of our writing prompts was to continue practicing
NOT fixing anything – people, family, friends, places or things or perhaps even
yourself. Just be a good witness to
life. Don’t fix, don’t offer advice,
don't offer solutions – just listen and be.
Don’t be the problem solver, just notice what you notice and let it
go. Observe what happens to them, to
yourself.
And here is what I wrote.
I dreamed of dying this early morning. Cancer. I have had
cancer and have been in remission for over 10 years. I know what cancer can look like and in my
dream I was impressed with the sense of déjà vu, and the detail of my illness
as only happens in dreams.
But this dream was different. I was in advanced stages and I
knew that the end would come soon in my dream. When I woke up, gently, not like
coming out of a nightmare, there was incredible peace, a sense of letting go of
the fear of dying. An acceptance.
I laid there and told my husband about my dream. And that I was filled with the wonder and the
gift of letting go of the fear of dying. I am currently in excellent health, and so the
dream did not feel like a premonition as much as an insight to my future.
So many have passed on, and I have been fortunate to have
been with my father, my mother, and my sister just before they died. Perhaps
losing others to death is harder than contemplating my own death. There is no
fixing I realize for this end stage of life. And so I am calmed knowing my time
will come whenever it is right. I’ve got a lot of living yet to do, and I plan
to live fully in each moment.
P.S. I remember at my uncle's funeral last fall, as I was
expressing my condolences to my cousin, he said don't worry - they're happy
now. There are your relatives and our uncle-he makes a fourth for their mah
jong party in the sky. Don't be sad, he said, we'll join them when it is our
turn. And I smiled through the service. No fixing, just accepting.
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